How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings or his pride?

I want out of my relationship (we've been together for almost two years now.) - we're very incompatible, argue a lot, and even though we don't see each other much we still argue a lot. I don't know how to end it. Any advice?How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings or his pride?
You can't. He has contributed to the relationship emotionally. Breaking up with him, WILL cause him pain (unless the relationship has become just as unwanted for him). However, if you are not married (doesn't sound like you are)...it is better to go your separate ways now, rather than putting more time, effort and emotion into a relationship you don't want to be in.How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings or his pride?
Just say, '; I think we should end this thing because we are not getting along. Don't you agree?'; That makes it a joint


decision and helps soften the blow. That's the best attempt you can make at an amicable breakup. If that doesn't work


just say, '; Sorry but I need out';. You've done everything that you can do not to hurt the guys ego at that point and it turns out however it turns out.
Well since you already don't get along then it should be easy. If he isn't willing to spend time with you or attempt to work things out, then he has already moved on. If you hurt him then he will realize what he just passed up, but don't run back to him if he shows emotion.
Just tell him that you think it would be better if you guys don't see each other any more. Tell him how you feel, but be stern. I also wouldn't recommend trying to just stay friends, you'll just end up leading him on.
such is life. but unfortunately, that's not going to happen. the only way to not cause him any pain is if he was either dead, or a zombie. in which case, he would still be dead. the best way is to not beat around the bush. like a band-aid just rip it off quick. and whatever you do, DO NOT say those words: we can still be friends. that is a slap in the face. just be straight and to the point. if this is truly what you want, don't let him try to persuade you to change your mind, cause it will only get harder the longer you take. good luck
If he loves you whatever you say will hurt his feelings so just tell him straight that, although you think he is a nice guy, all this arguing is getting you down and it's got the point where you can't take it anymore. Explain that it's no ones fault - its just incompatibility.


It doesn't sound like the relationship is even strong enough for friendship either.
I know it's a cheap way out, but making him break up with you always worked for me.
Tell him you are gay and have AIDS. He'll get the idea that it's over.
Unless he wants the same thing, you cannot avoid hurt feelings or pride. Just cut your losses now, and get on with your life.
Try this approach; it has always worked well for me:





Hi (substitute his name) this is (substitute your name) we're very incompatible and even though we don't see each other much we still argue a lot. I am moving on. Bye (substitute his name) BTW, this advice is completely free and without charge.
just tell him the the truth. honestly there is no right word for a break up. every break up is always somebody getting hurt no matter what so why lie just tell them the truth and u feel alot better and he get over it one day
tell him the truth.. just say it all like a bandaid. one clean pull. and tell him the truth coz he deserves to know the truth...
ask him what u do not like about him and tell him that both of u wiil be friends only (with courage)
Its really difficult to tell somebody that you fall out of love without hurting his feelings.





At least find a proper and decent way to talk to him and open up your decisions. Emphasize your points of breaking up with him. Tell him the pros %26amp; cons and the advantages of parting up as friends than to remain with each other with many incompatibilities.





He will understand your point in the end.





At least part ways as friends.
in person tell him that you just don't have feelings for him that you think you should... in a place where you can talk alone... house, park, yard...etc





if you offer to still be friends then mean it, i honestly wanted to stay friends with someone i dated before and we said we would but she just blew me and some others off shorty after... that what hurt me.
You can not break up with a man without hurting him. Don't waste your time trying to find a way.





The gentlest way to break up with a man is to be blunt. ';I want to end the relationship. I'm not happy, and I think that I can do better elsewhere.';


The more you try to soften the blow, the longer he will mourn you, and the more it will hurt him.
You could send him a ';play me'; casette tape! I saw it in a movie once. Do they still make casette tapes or casette tape players? No? So send him a DVD instead.





Oh, and a big box of chocolates and a card that says ';Life is like a box of chocolates...:';.
You can't break up with a guy without hurting feelings. Say what you honestly feel but just don't say ';We can still be friends'; if he is not that type of person. I know a couple of guys who hate that line and will curse you out if you say it to them.
Wow that's tough. You could go for the ';I think we should take a break'; but honestly there isn't a way to do any of that without hurting him etc. unless he's thinking the same thing. The best way to go about doing it though is to calmly talk it out...if that's possible...and make sure he understands what the issues are. If he doesn't agree and grabs at the ';but I can change'; line, just stick with where you were going. If you don't he might seem like he changed at first but you'll just be back to arguing within 2 months.
Tell him that you just discovered that you're gay?





j/k





Tell him the truth!
Just inform him politely.


U cant have a break up without any pain...but dont let that hold u back from breaking up...its got to be done.
The best way is be direct. Be honest about your feelings. Own your feelings and behaviour. We are victims to our self as people can only do to us what we let them do. Is it possible that you are still together out of habit. It is not possible to not hurt the others feeling or pride. What men and women have in common is their humanity, with all its flaws and frailty. Don't blame on gender what is only Humanity. Tell him your feelings and what you are going to do about fixing your problem. Tell him quietly but assertively. If you need maybe have a friend in close eye shot but out of hearing range. Then stick to your decision.





Kindest regards
Gain weight and stop ';putting out'; he'll dump you pretty quick and be happy to be rid of you.





Have him listen to the Tom Leykis show, 3-8pm pacific M-F





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say it to him nicely.... then metion your reasons,....





say sorry,,... then ask if you could still be friends(befriend him)
Email him a link to this thread and tell him that you're TERA.
explain what should be obvious to you both that in keeping your friendship intact (or not if necessary) you will be able to focus on being better people without one another. who knows, maybe he's thinking the same thing about you and just doesn't know how to tell you. It has to end so why forego it and keep suffering. It may hurt, but it's gonna feel a lot better than being stuck.
You can't break up with someone without hurting their feelings.





Just say you want to be single or you feel you are incompatible or your a lesbian.





Doesn't matter... he wont be happy unless you make HIM break up with YOU. And there a lot of ways to do that.
Tell him he's an asshole, and you are out the door.
No easy way out. Hurt feelings are bound to ensue. Lioness' idea is better in my experience - make them break up with you, if you care for them, and are willing to take that extra step.
Just tell him what you told us. He can't deny that there's some truth to it.
What the guy above said..





Gain weight. That's one of the fastest way a woman can make a man leave her.