How do I actually break up with this guy?

I have been seeing this guy for about two and a half months now. Before we started dating we were friends but did not talk all the time. He knew that i was planning on moving to california but still insisted on dating me. I had no problem with it because it wasnt that serious. however, time went on and he started talking about weddings and houses....like with me! I got freaked out and I just dont really say anything. And now the time is getting closer to move and I want to be ';single'; for the small time im still home. I told him the other night that i dont think i will be able to handle a long distance relationship and blah blah blah. its so hard to have that responsibility, especially if im going to have to take the time to settle in and find a job, plus ill be going to school. he doesnt respond to anything i say and then ten minutes later he acts like everything is ok. why dont guys read between the lines!?!?! HELP ME!!How do I actually break up with this guy?
its your life and it sounds like hes thinking of HIS happiness, not what you want for your life. or he is getting mixed signals. if you are not planning on committing to this person, tell him w/no uncertinty. im glad we were friends, i have things to do before i go, im excited about my move and new life and i wish the best of everything for you. if he says YOU are the best thing for him, tell him you know what you want for your life (or at least the next chapter of it, whatever applies). you have to be direct with him. tell him that his suggestions of marriage and houses were HIS idea and that you never felt that way. it was only a couple months after all. dont let him push or guilt you into anything. men like that can be controlling in many ways and it may get even worse. i dont know this guy so i dont know if hes an ok guy or what, but go for what makes you happy and hopefully he will realize you mean what you say and let it go. wish him well. if it was nothing he said or did that made you not want to marry this guy (he might want reasons) you can say your focus from the start was on something else and it never changed. good luck to you both. (i dont mean to say TELL him this or that, im making suggestions. i put it that way for simplicitys sake)How do I actually break up with this guy?
you're welcome, good luck and thanks for choosing my answer :)

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U need to tell him how u feel,tell him the truth I'm sure he will appreciate you more for telling him ,Just say i need to have a serious talk with you and that you are not ready for a relationship that you some space.
follow your heart. dont ask over yahoo answers. seriously
I FELL UR PAIN AND YOU NEED 2 BASICALLY JUST BE STRAIGHT FORWARD WITH HIM....YOU NEED 2 LET HIM KNOW HOW U FEEL AND DNT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH..HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND!!~***TWEETY WAZ HERE HELPING LIKE ALWAYZ***
JUS KEEP IT SO REAL N TELL HIM THAT U DNT WANT HIM, DNT BE FAKE ALL UR DAMN LIFE
The best thing for you to do is be honest with him. Tell him how you're really feelings.
Just tell him straight out what you think about it...and that you don't even have time for yourself..and that you need to let go, because you cant deal with the relationship anymore...
I'd be concerned too if a guy I'd dated for 21/2 months got that serious. I think you should take the direct approach. He deserves your honesty. Tell him that you feel differently than he does and that you aren't willing to commit to a long term relationship. You can always ease the blow by telling him that you think he is a great guy, that some girl will be lucky to have him one day, that you just aren't that girl, but would value his friendship long term. As long as you are honest and straightforward about your own intentions he will learn to deal with the situation. He seems like he may be the type that gets too attached too soon anyway. Maybe you can introduce him to someone else that you think he would be a good match with and you'll feel less guilty leaving him 'in the dust'. Good Luck