How do I actually break up with this guy?

I have been seeing this guy for about two and a half months now. Before we started dating we were friends but did not talk all the time. He knew that i was planning on moving to california but still insisted on dating me. I had no problem with it because it wasnt that serious. however, time went on and he started talking about weddings and houses....like with me! I got freaked out and I just dont really say anything. And now the time is getting closer to move and I want to be ';single'; for the small time im still home. I told him the other night that i dont think i will be able to handle a long distance relationship and blah blah blah. its so hard to have that responsibility, especially if im going to have to take the time to settle in and find a job, plus ill be going to school. he doesnt respond to anything i say and then ten minutes later he acts like everything is ok. why dont guys read between the lines!?!?! HELP ME!!How do I actually break up with this guy?
its your life and it sounds like hes thinking of HIS happiness, not what you want for your life. or he is getting mixed signals. if you are not planning on committing to this person, tell him w/no uncertinty. im glad we were friends, i have things to do before i go, im excited about my move and new life and i wish the best of everything for you. if he says YOU are the best thing for him, tell him you know what you want for your life (or at least the next chapter of it, whatever applies). you have to be direct with him. tell him that his suggestions of marriage and houses were HIS idea and that you never felt that way. it was only a couple months after all. dont let him push or guilt you into anything. men like that can be controlling in many ways and it may get even worse. i dont know this guy so i dont know if hes an ok guy or what, but go for what makes you happy and hopefully he will realize you mean what you say and let it go. wish him well. if it was nothing he said or did that made you not want to marry this guy (he might want reasons) you can say your focus from the start was on something else and it never changed. good luck to you both. (i dont mean to say TELL him this or that, im making suggestions. i put it that way for simplicitys sake)How do I actually break up with this guy?
you're welcome, good luck and thanks for choosing my answer :)

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U need to tell him how u feel,tell him the truth I'm sure he will appreciate you more for telling him ,Just say i need to have a serious talk with you and that you are not ready for a relationship that you some space.
follow your heart. dont ask over yahoo answers. seriously
I FELL UR PAIN AND YOU NEED 2 BASICALLY JUST BE STRAIGHT FORWARD WITH HIM....YOU NEED 2 LET HIM KNOW HOW U FEEL AND DNT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH..HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND!!~***TWEETY WAZ HERE HELPING LIKE ALWAYZ***
JUS KEEP IT SO REAL N TELL HIM THAT U DNT WANT HIM, DNT BE FAKE ALL UR DAMN LIFE
The best thing for you to do is be honest with him. Tell him how you're really feelings.
Just tell him straight out what you think about it...and that you don't even have time for yourself..and that you need to let go, because you cant deal with the relationship anymore...
I'd be concerned too if a guy I'd dated for 21/2 months got that serious. I think you should take the direct approach. He deserves your honesty. Tell him that you feel differently than he does and that you aren't willing to commit to a long term relationship. You can always ease the blow by telling him that you think he is a great guy, that some girl will be lucky to have him one day, that you just aren't that girl, but would value his friendship long term. As long as you are honest and straightforward about your own intentions he will learn to deal with the situation. He seems like he may be the type that gets too attached too soon anyway. Maybe you can introduce him to someone else that you think he would be a good match with and you'll feel less guilty leaving him 'in the dust'. Good Luck

How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings?

His name is Marcel and we've been going out for about two and a half years and i think it's time to move on but he still is like totally in love with me. How do i drop him without breaking his heart?How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings?
oh man.. tough....


Its almost impossible to not break his heart. But you can soften to the blow. Sit down with just you two and tell him that you will always be friends and make sure he know that. Tell him that the past 2 years have been some of the best times of your life but you think that you guys would be better off as friends. add anything else that you think would helpHow do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings?
tell him the truth. Now! because eventually he will find out the truth and not only will you break his heart you will create an enemy
Hey Nick. You just gotta pick between Dae', and Marcel. Sure Marcel is your ';baby'; but what about Dae' Tron? Dosen't he get a fair chance to have u? Let your heart tell you what to do and hopefully it won't be wrong!
its been too long, it's going to break his heart no matter what you do. just let him down gently but it will always hurt him

How do I actually break up with this guy?

I have been seeing this guy for about two and a half months now. Before we started dating we were friends but did not talk all the time. He knew that i was planning on moving to california but still insisted on dating me. I had no problem with it because it wasnt that serious. however, time went on and he started talking about weddings and houses....like with me! I got freaked out and I just dont really say anything. And now the time is getting closer to move and I want to be ';single'; for the small time im still home. I told him the other night that i dont think i will be able to handle a long distance relationship and blah blah blah. its so hard to have that responsibility, especially if im going to have to take the time to settle in and find a job, plus ill be going to school. he doesnt respond to anything i say and then ten minutes later he acts like everything is ok. why dont guys read between the lines!?!?! HELP ME!!How do I actually break up with this guy?
its your life and it sounds like hes thinking of HIS happiness, not what you want for your life. or he is getting mixed signals. if you are not planning on committing to this person, tell him w/no uncertinty. im glad we were friends, i have things to do before i go, im excited about my move and new life and i wish the best of everything for you. if he says YOU are the best thing for him, tell him you know what you want for your life (or at least the next chapter of it, whatever applies). you have to be direct with him. tell him that his suggestions of marriage and houses were HIS idea and that you never felt that way. it was only a couple months after all. dont let him push or guilt you into anything. men like that can be controlling in many ways and it may get even worse. i dont know this guy so i dont know if hes an ok guy or what, but go for what makes you happy and hopefully he will realize you mean what you say and let it go. wish him well. if it was nothing he said or did that made you not want to marry this guy (he might want reasons) you can say your focus from the start was on something else and it never changed. good luck to you both. (i dont mean to say TELL him this or that, im making suggestions. i put it that way for simplicitys sake)How do I actually break up with this guy?
you're welcome, good luck and thanks for choosing my answer :)

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U need to tell him how u feel,tell him the truth I'm sure he will appreciate you more for telling him ,Just say i need to have a serious talk with you and that you are not ready for a relationship that you some space.
follow your heart. dont ask over yahoo answers. seriously
I FELL UR PAIN AND YOU NEED 2 BASICALLY JUST BE STRAIGHT FORWARD WITH HIM....YOU NEED 2 LET HIM KNOW HOW U FEEL AND DNT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH..HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND!!~***TWEETY WAZ HERE HELPING LIKE ALWAYZ***
JUS KEEP IT SO REAL N TELL HIM THAT U DNT WANT HIM, DNT BE FAKE ALL UR DAMN LIFE
The best thing for you to do is be honest with him. Tell him how you're really feelings.
Just tell him straight out what you think about it...and that you don't even have time for yourself..and that you need to let go, because you cant deal with the relationship anymore...
I'd be concerned too if a guy I'd dated for 21/2 months got that serious. I think you should take the direct approach. He deserves your honesty. Tell him that you feel differently than he does and that you aren't willing to commit to a long term relationship. You can always ease the blow by telling him that you think he is a great guy, that some girl will be lucky to have him one day, that you just aren't that girl, but would value his friendship long term. As long as you are honest and straightforward about your own intentions he will learn to deal with the situation. He seems like he may be the type that gets too attached too soon anyway. Maybe you can introduce him to someone else that you think he would be a good match with and you'll feel less guilty leaving him 'in the dust'. Good Luck

How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings?

His name is Marcel and we've been going out for about two and a half years and i think it's time to move on but he still is like totally in love with me. How do i drop him without breaking his heart?How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings?
oh man.. tough....


Its almost impossible to not break his heart. But you can soften to the blow. Sit down with just you two and tell him that you will always be friends and make sure he know that. Tell him that the past 2 years have been some of the best times of your life but you think that you guys would be better off as friends. add anything else that you think would helpHow do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings?
tell him the truth. Now! because eventually he will find out the truth and not only will you break his heart you will create an enemy
Hey Nick. You just gotta pick between Dae', and Marcel. Sure Marcel is your ';baby'; but what about Dae' Tron? Dosen't he get a fair chance to have u? Let your heart tell you what to do and hopefully it won't be wrong!
its been too long, it's going to break his heart no matter what you do. just let him down gently but it will always hurt him

How do I get this guy to break up with his girlfriend and go out with me?

I want this guy as my bf SOOOOOOOO bad!!!!


But he has a gf that breaks up with him ALL the time. PLEASE tell me how to break up him and his girlfriend. I WANT HIM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BAD!!!!!!How do I get this guy to break up with his girlfriend and go out with me?
just go up to him then kiss him... and tell him how you feel.... he will consider your point of view...How do I get this guy to break up with his girlfriend and go out with me?
It's not right to split up relationships. If they break up you can make a move but until then I think you should just leave it alone.
don't?





if he breaks up with her, because ';he has a gf that breaks up with him ALL the time'; then go after him





but don't try to split people up that just sucks

How do you break up witha guy that doesn't want to let you go?

we've been going out for a year and he loves me so much but still i know i cant trust him because he have lied many times and cheated on me once. i do love him and i forgive him but i'm tired of all the things he have been doing. i've given him many chances but he still failed me. i dont want to expect anything from him anymore. now i want a breakup but he is really holding on.he doesnt want to let me go. he's obssesed i may say...he said he will wait till we were like before.he said he'll change but i've heard those words many times before. i dont want to hurt him but how can i tell him that i just dont wanna get hurt anymore.now were still seeing each other pretending nothing happened but im still cold with him. i gave him one week as a chance to prove himself but i dont know what to decide. pls help me.How do you break up witha guy that doesn't want to let you go?
I'm a firm believer in cutting ties cold turkey for a successful breakup. Worst case, move away and start over without him.How do you break up witha guy that doesn't want to let you go?
It's certainly not going to be easy. It's almost like being addicted to something. You can't just quit cold-turkey. Start making plans with your friends more. This way you can slowly distance yourself from him and you won't have (as much) time to argue about your feelings. Spending time with your friends will also help you forget about how sad he is. It's going to be hard but you can't worry about his feelings right now. Take care of your heart!!





Good luck!!
hi,,, its common thing... gv chance 1 time becoz if he love u lot than he come back, or he change but if he doing time pass than he ingnoor but in ur case is tr with u.. talk him freely,, sit together n solve. noddy help u only u help Ur self u decide wt u want?
tell him u hate his smell
First, write him a letter explaining all you have said in your question. Of course be as nice and kind as you can, but you must be firm. Close the letter by saying you will meet him for dinner or some other public type place for a final personal meeting as you have too much respect for him to let it end by letter. Let him know that you don't mean to hurt him, but he must realize that you have been hurting for some time now...you are physically and mentally drained and you must move on. Ask him that if he has ever truly loved you to please respect your feelings and let you go on with your life. This is not easy for you but you have made the decision that you believe is right for you. Remember...you must be firm. If you meet and he began to get nasty or unruly, tell him you will leave immediately. By the way let someone know(who you can depend on) your plans and have them drop you off and be a phone call away to come and pick you up. You cannot be friends right away...maybe after enough time has passed and you are positive it can be only that as far as he is concerned.


The important thing here is that it must be done and you cannot put it off.





Good luck and keep safe!
he's a control freak and i've been seeing alot of this lately!! if he cheated on you and you never cheated on him then just leave him!! you say you don't want to hurt him but look at all the pain he's putting you through. he will become abusive if you stay with him. leave now, is the best advice and stop worrying about his feelings cause he wasn't worried about yours when he cheated on you!!!
Been there %26amp; you are in a dangerous situation-REPEAT dangerous. Break off-no games-no contact-no phone calls ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT! Stick very close to family/friends-VERY CLOSE! When you say, ';I will be here/there certain time';, stick to it %26amp; have someone watching out for you;try not to be alone away from work, etc.
say it over!!! and never call or revice call from him if he still doing it then call the police! he shall go jail!!
Tell him sorry, but you have no intentions of staying with a liar and a cheater. If he cannot accept that then you will be forced to add ';possessiveness with stalker tendancies'; to your list of things that pertain to him. Pretending nothing happened is the worse thing you could do.
dear,try to avoid him,try to spend your time in other things,not receive his call,and it is more better to meet him and tell all things that you don't feel good with him,and make the end of your love by mutual understanding
He doesn't love you the way you want to be loved. What kind of love does a person have who cheats. Its quite obviously he doesn't know what love is and just can't stand to lose.
well youll have to do it in a nice way
Poor guy. Get him to join the men's groups on Yahoo so as he has some support.





I spose honey, you just have to do it slowly. Be nice to him for there's nothing surer than that someone will do it to you. If you break him in peices then that's what you'll get.
Two Words: Restraining Order. Good luck.

How do you break up with a guy you have been dating for 5 months?

my boyfriend is really sweet but i know hes not the one and we both need to move on but he doesnt see it so im going to have to point it out and i have plenty of time im only a sophmore.How do you break up with a guy you have been dating for 5 months?
Just let him know it's not working out for you.





That you don't want to lie to him and that it's better if you both move on.How do you break up with a guy you have been dating for 5 months?
Be honest with him...you can use the truth but they never take it that way at first....we can still be friends... but most of all do it soon, they longer you wait, the more it could effect the relationship. Sounds like he isnt going to take it so well. Start out another way...by suggesting that you two start doing more things away, with other people, than always with each other but don't knock him out of the circle completely. He may see that seeing other people is a good thing too. Use examples of why you are not ready or want ';him';. Be honest most of all.
Be completely upfront and honest with him. You really like him, but the more you get to know him, the more you see your relationship being better as just friends. and you hope that you can still be friends, but for the time being, you don't want to be in a serious relationship with him. You are only a sophomore and you do have plenty of time, and so does he. Good luck!
Your a sophomore and your saying ';he's not the one'; are you serious. I should find out where you live slap the stupid out of you. Are you trying to get married and have kids at 16 or what? Just live your life. Half the kids at my school get new boyfriends and girlfriends every week just for sex. They are far from thinking about finding true love and so should you. But I'm not saying go have sex just life your life.
well just say i don't think we have a spark anymore i think we should just leteach otherr go they say if you love something so much you set it free and that's what im doing for you and maybe one day you will fly back to me but now isn't the time for us to be together im rele sorry i rele like you but theirs just no......intense in our relationship anymore plz understand babe
Babe the last thing you need to do is draw this out end it be honest to yourself and to him follow this through life and you will be true to your self
Tell him that he is a great guy and you enjoyed being with him. But, you just do not feel the same and you want to date other people. Just, apologize and ask to still be friends if thats something you would want.
if theres not a legit reason to break up then why are you going to do it?








and if you do want to break up just tell him you want to break up.


your going to hurt him even if you sugar coat it.
Just sit him down and tell him that you two have drifted apart, and you would like to remain friends but that's all you can see yourself as.
You should really just break it off with him as hard as it is


The sooner the better


the longer the worse cause you'll just be leading him longer


Break it off with him nowwww


Tell him in person.
Tell him straight up I'm not ready for a big commitment and I don't feel this relationship is going to go anywhere or last so I'm breaking it off. He'll be hurt, but it's better than lying to him.
Tell him exactly what you said in this question. Good luck!
I've had to do this many times and it works


Make a pie and start fingering it.


then put your fingers in his mouth
just walk up to him and be like........';bye';........then walk away....
Say your pregnant. He'll run off
just tell him that you dont think its working out and your sorry
tell him you have aids

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